If there is one thing I hate homophobic people saying, it’s that gay men are gross for having anal sex.
I get it, poop comes out of the anus. You sound like a 5 year old who just learned about sex: “ew, that’s where you pee out of!”.
Yes, the anus is “gross”, just as many other parts of the human body are “gross”. Genitalis make pee, the vagina gets bloody every month, the mouth is a cesspool of spit and bacteria, skin is always covered in dead skin cells and makes sweat, but nobody ever complains about them being gross, because we have a novel concept called WASHING and HYGEINE. Homophobes always say that “it will never be clean, it will always be covered in shit”, which is just plain untrue. It’s fallacious and hypocritical to treat this particular part of the body any differently, and is clearly just an excuse to paint homosexual men as disgusting and degenerate.
And just to be clear, yes, I know that not all gay men have sex anally, and I’m not saying that everyone has to find it arousing themselves. I’m just saying that we really need to drop this stigma around anal.
When an artist dies young there is always talk of the paintings unpainted, the books unwritten, which points to some imaginary storehouse of undone things and not to the imagination itself, the far richer treasure, lost. All of those works are the trail left behind, a path across time, left like the sun leaves gold on the sea: you can see it but you can’t ever pick it up. What we lose with each death, though, is more like stars falling out of the sky and into the sea and gone. The something undone, the something that won’t ever be done, always remains unendurable to consider. A permanent loss of possibility, so that what is left is only ever better than nothing, but the loss is limitless.
Alexander Chee, After Peter, How to write an autobiographical novel (2018)
There are actresses who want to stick to one certain way, and there are actors like me who want to do a bunch of different characters. … Don’t fence me in! Don’t lock me down! I want to do different things! I don’t know who I am! - Catherine O’Hara (x)
“As often in science, from Copernicus “we’re not at the center of the universe” to Darwin “we’re related to all other creatures” to the present day, with a greater sense of understanding comes a greater sense of wonder, and a greater realization that we are part of and not apart from the rest of nature.”
